One morning recently I awoke with a heavy heart. Searching for a reason for the weight on my chest, I remembered a quotation from years past. I share it with you on the off chance that you might at some time have experienced a little of the Arthur Miller character’s feeling of unworthiness, self-rejection, even despair.
“I dreamed I had a child, and even in the dream I saw it was my life, and it was an idiot, and I ran away. But it always crept onto my lap again, clutched at my clothes. Until I thought, if I could kiss it, whatever in it was my own, perhaps I could sleep. And I bent to its broken face and it was horrible. . . but I kissed it. I think one must finally take one’s life in one’s arms.” –Arthur Miller, After the Fall
In my years as an EFT practitioner, I’ve discovered that the single most common stumbling block or “core issue” for my clients is a form of self-rejection—often out of conscious reach. We might call it low self-esteem. When it’s expressed at all, it comes out in words like “I’m not good enough. I am not enough. And I never will be.”
What might have caused us to feel this deep self-rejection? This sense of being “less than” or “unworthy” did not come out of thin air. Maybe in childhood we were abused, or abandoned; criticized by parents, teachers, peers. Maybe we’ve experienced some great loss: loss of a career, loss of our health, rejection by a spouse, family, friends. And we stuffed the feelings down with distractions and became a workaholic or an alcoholic or abused drugs–or food. Or we became chronically depressed—seemingly without cause.
EFT offers hope.
The tapping process can take the smallest or the most horrific specific memory (stored in the cells of our body) and “neutralize” it. The mind never forgets anything, of course, but when we thoroughly do EFT, it feels like we’ve forgotten because the emotional charge associated with the memory is gone.
I encourage you to take your life into your arms. Give me a call at 971-506-0498 and we can talk for a few moments right then or set up a time for a more lengthy conversation to see if we’re a good match and if EFT is the way you choose to heal yourself.